You’re at church, and suddenly you feel like playing a game on your phone or talking with a friend. I get that. I struggled with the same thing. When you don’t feel connected with God at church, you maybe are bored of listening to a long sermon or singing songs. You don’t find a connection with what you’re doing. Being bored of church probably happens to four out of ten people who attend church.
Choredom and boredom versus enjoyment
I’ve woken up days and felt like church was a chore rather a way to connect with God and other Christians. Worshipping is something Christians shouldn’t feel required to do. It’s something you should look forward to; something you should enjoy. So how are we supposed to find our worship place? Where can we go to find an easy way to connect with our Father?
Well the answer is: it’s not always easy to find a way to connect with God. In fact, as you grow in your faith and maturity, you will start to change the way you want to worship. One of my favorite things to do is to listen to an audio drama called “Adventures in Odyssey.” One of my favorite characters in this drama is Penny. She has trouble blending in with her friends and family because she worships differently than most people. She calls herself a “striped fish in plaid water.” As a creative artist, she find that words aren’t the only way to connect with God. She says, “Words are one way, the Bible is a book of words, church services are centered around words, but there is an entirely different way. Through images.” (From the album “Taking the Plunge”, AIO)
Like Penny, I’ve found a way to worship through images. I use my gifts to glorify Him. I found that I am easily able to worship through drawing.
Finding the connection when you don’t feel connected with God at church
When you don’t feel connected with God at church, it’s time to press in and find some other ways to express your worship. So how can you make this connection with your worshipping strengths? Most churches use singing for their worship services. If you don’t find that this is your worshipping strength, then try different things. Try dancing, drawing, playing an instrument. King David wrote poems, psalms, he danced, and he played an instrument. Since God is endless, the ways to worship Him are endless as well.
As you begin to worship through your gifts that God has given you, you will begin to find your special worshiping place. Sometimes this is comfortable, like the feeling you get when you hop into bed at night with the cool sheets against your skin and your hair brushed up on the pillowcase. But sometimes it’s not comfortable. And worshiping isn’t about feeling comfortable. It’s about the connection with God. This means you have to go a little out of that safe, comfy spot you’re in right now. You will need to expand your worshipping efforts to feel that connection.
The perception of safety versus real safety
Writer C.S. Lewis had a strong idea about this. You get a sense of this from his writing in the Chronicles of Narnia. In his first book, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, characters Susan and Lucy ask Mr. and Mrs. Beaver to describe Aslan. Aslan is the lion in the story. He represents Jesus. They ask the Beavers if Aslan is a man, and he replies:
Aslan a man? Certainly not. I tell you he is the King of the woods and the son of the great Emperor-beyond-the Sea. Don’t you know who is the King of Beasts? Aslan is a lion—the Lion, the great Lion.”
“Ooh!” said Susan. “I’d thought he was a man. Is he quite safe? I shall feel rather nervous about meeting a lion.”
“That you will, dearie, and make no mistake,” said Mrs. Beaver, “if there’s anyone who can appear before Aslan without their knees knocking, they’re either braver than most or else just silly.”
“Then he isn’t safe?” said Lucy.
“Safe?” said Mr. Beaver. “Don’t you hear what Mrs. Beaver tells you? Who said anything about being safe? ‘Course he isn’t safe. But he’s good. He’s the King, I tell you.”
(C.S. Lewis, The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe)
We all think of God when we think of Aslan. Lions in general aren’t very safe, but Aslan the Lion is good. It’s the same with God. Finding ways to express our worship and connect with God can take us places outside our comfort zones. In that sense, it doesn’t feel safe. However, even when it doesn’t feel safe, it IS safe, because God is good. God is love.
Moving out of your comfort zone when you don’t feel connected with God at church
When you start to really understand how good God is, and how much He loves you, you will want to connect with Him more. And you will want to move out of your comfort zone more to get there. It’s all worth it. It can take some time for this to begin to happen, but once you practice moving out of your comfort zone, your feelings about worship and church should begin to change.
Moving out of your comfort zone is not a one-time thing. As you grow and as you change, your comfort zone will change. You will need to continuously adjust for this for the rest of your life. Some days you will not want to worship, and when this happens, be strong and keep pushing. Worshiping will give you a boost of energy. For your spiritual health, it is vital. It’s also vital for others.
Since church is not only a place to connect with God, it’s also about connecting with other believers, the gifts you bring in worship may bless those around you as well. Your poems, drawings, paintings, dance, instrumentation, and other expressions of worship will not only worship God, but they may inspire believers around you in their worship too.
The Bible says, “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
So get out there and worship and be who you were born to be!